Words & Tone- Each Carry Weight

Dearly beloved…couldn’t resist this homage to Prince, what we say and how we say it matters.


The season is raging with opinions and talking heads shedding information, which can be volatile or peaceful, depending on the tone and the word choice. It’s imperative that we each remain civil with our beliefs and viewpoints.  Personally, I have learned that it is wise to frame thoughts in a way that reflect research, facts and knowledge and combine this with words that enlighten.  We must lift each other up with educated thoughts instead of hearsay and gossip.  When we become upset or angry, it’s easy to fall prey to the war on words coupled with a possible shouting match.  It’s happened to me, and of course when the battle ensues, one must think about which words are safe to say in our current environment?


During a recent energizing midnight walk in Florida with my high school daughter’s friend, (now mine as well) Kate, reminded me that the tone of voice carries equal weight to our word choice when attempting to get our point across to the other person.  We know those gnarly cases where the person will  “raise their voice when they should raise their argument,” thank you Annie for that illustration.  However, let us all keep in mind that we are all entitled to an opinion, and let’s each agree to disagree in order to reach a common ground.  What we think says a lot about us, but how we say what we think says even more. So, think upon the words you will use, pause before you use them and then proceed using a respectable and friendly tone.  This way, whatever said, the intent has the possibility of becoming a reality.


To answer the question, which words to use; select those which have the essence to empower, mend, heal, inspire, lift, motivate, educate, enlighten, challenge and lead others to make better choices.  Albeit the opposite is possible with words, it is up to each of us to take the high road and speak with care and concern for & ourselves the other.  You never know when your words may alter the course of a person’s life, positively or otherwise.




Carpe Kefi!

Kiki is a master interviewer with 25 years broadcasting on Kansas City and Chicago radio. She was a prevalent force at WMAQ & WBBM radio where she was the first female airborne news/traffic reporter in the "Windy City". Kiki’s voiceover work has garnered her Omni awards for Evian water and Coca-Cola commercials. These days Kiki enjoys energizing audiences on stage during motivational speaking engagements, and through writing. Her highly regarded “Kefi-That Life Force” column, was published previously in The Greek Star. She’s currently working on her first non-fiction book. [ View all posts ]