You Can Look At Things A Lot Of Different Ways-

When people get sick it’s a wake up call, for all involved.  I say this from experience as my mother was diagnosed with Non Hodgkins B-Cell Lymphoma just after Thanksgiving of 2016.

Hello- you never think “it” will happen to you or yours, but no one is immune.

I’ll spare you all the sickly details and stick to the upside of the illness that hit our family, and I say our family because we are all in it together.  Lymphoma is temporarily in my mom’s body, but she is permantly in the heart of every person that loves her.  Thus we approach this journey as “ALL FOR ONE.”


My parents reside in a different city than I do, so in order for me to bond, support and encourage them in person I must travel a far distance.  It’s ok though because when I do make the trek to KC, to be together, we have uninterrupted time away from my daily routines.  Every minute is dedicated to my mom, (dad when there’s time lol) and that is where this story begins.


My second morning here was one of philosophical conversation and I LOVED IT.  After I woke up I went into my mom’s room and we engaged in an impromptu, yet very heartfelt conversation.  The talk just naturally circled all aspects of living well and it began with me telling my mom I was so sorry she had to go through the real “struggle,” to heal.  She said ….

“It’s not a problem, you can look at things a lot of different ways.”

My ears perked up. I realized at that moment that every day my mother Kathryn’s illness taught me something.  Correction, her surprise and unwanted illness didn’t teach me, her attitude and state of mind taught me.

She has taught me, but it was always her, that when mysterious and unexpected things happen, you must adjust.  That is the time to get busy fighting back, reworking the program, re-evaluate, figure out how to stay sane in the middle of chaos of all things – NO TIME FOR PANIC OR WORRY. Most of all, through it all never relinquish hope that all will turn out well.

Mom teaches me everyday she goes through discomfort and change,that prayer is powerful to one’s mind and heart.  She said that no matter how much you have- you cannot take it with you. Life has to be a game of moderation- all things in moderation.

“Gotta be aware and in tune with your body.   It tells you things everyday.  Listen and do something helpful for it.”

Lymphoma reminds her that worry is the enemy, and positive affirmations will turn around the day. So will brining your favorite things into view, right in front of you.  Staying in the game and staying positive is a matter setting up your environment with all and everything that lifts your spirits and brings you joy. For my mom, it’s her family and friends and her favorite gardenia tree.  She’s had the tree for years, and it’s now in a prominent place where she can walk over to it and tell “Princess,” how beautiful she smells and how big and wonderful she has grown.  Such a positive and productive distraction from the serious effort and work it takes to heal.

Being sick is not fun, but sometimes it stops you in your tracks, wakes you up and forces you to dig deep and look at life a little differently.

Possibly look at life as what it is; the opportunity to enrich yourself and others, be strong in all circumstances, lean on loved ones, lead by example, accept change as a very real part of life without fearing it, when problems arise laugh about it, wear a smile  and avoid complaining.  Mostly, whatever the circumstances, find a work around and persevere through it ALL!

I ❤️ our talks.  They teach me more and more about how very blessed I am to have a mom who is not only the strongest woman I know, but the bravest person I know.

Can’t wait for all the sickly stuff to be out of the way, however in the interim, we will continue our talks, our support of each other and our #Kefi positive attitude that reinforces…


PS…my mom asked for your 🙏🏻.

Thank you and good night.


Carpe Kefi!

Kiki is a master interviewer with 25 years broadcasting on Kansas City and Chicago radio. She was a prevalent force at WMAQ & WBBM radio where she was the first female airborne news/traffic reporter in the "Windy City". Kiki’s voiceover work has garnered her Omni awards for Evian water and Coca-Cola commercials. These days Kiki enjoys energizing audiences on stage during motivational speaking engagements, and through writing. Her highly regarded “Kefi-That Life Force” column, was published previously in The Greek Star. She’s currently working on her first non-fiction book. [ View all posts ]